Men Aren’t Jerks: Bobby

This post is to supplement my hypothesis that men aren’t jerks – read the original post.

Over the course of several months, Bobby committed the following jerk crimes:

- Broke things off and lied about why (“it’s not you – it’s everything I have on my plate”)

- Proceeded to invite me out with his friends the very next day and get a girl’s number in front of me

- Said “I love you” drunk, sober, and in an attempt to sleep with me

- Repeatedly blew me off

Why he did what he did:

He didn’t know what he wanted

How he could have handled it better:

Been honest about WHY he was ending things. That way, he wouldn’t have had to push me further away by getting another girl’s number in front of me.

I don’t know about the I love you stuff. Men think with the wrong part of their body sometimes.

What I found out later:

He was still talking to an exgirlfriend – the “love of his life.” They were apparently talking about giving it one more shot.

Lesson Learned:

Don’t give out second, third, fourth, fifth, etc chances. Trust your instincts. No guy should ever tell you he loves you unless you two are in an exclusive relationship or are just friends. No guy who is worth your time will avoid you and blow you off. They’ll want to hang out with you.

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